Archive | January 2013

The “F” Factor

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I know, when you saw the title, a few things came to mind, but the “F” factor that I am talking about is life changing, it actively contributes to the production of an amazing result.

Many of us have gone through things in our life that we did not think we would get through or even in some cases, did not want to get through. I went through a divorce that I thought would destroy my very personhood. I recall a moment that I just wanted to give up the fight, the hurt and the pain and just go on to glory, but God had a different plan. As time went by I discovered the “F” factor.

My “F” factor was FAITH. Those of us who have read the bible knows what it says about FAITH. We so easily quote the scripture about FAITH “being the substance of things hoped for and the evidence of things not seen”. .. But do we really know what it is to walk by FAITH, to live by FAITH and to move by FAITH?

FAITH is believing that all will work out for you, no matter what it looks like, feels like or what others may be saying. FAITH is knowing and believing that God is all wise and knows what He is doing with your life. FAITH is not necessary looking for the person, place or thing that is seen as an obstacle to change or move, but trusting and believing that God can still get the expected outcome that He has designed for your life even with those things still in place.

You see…FAITH is believing without question! When you have FAITH you believe with strong conviction, you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that things will get better and change is on the way. FAITH means that you do not have to see the change happening or have proof that it will occur, you simply have to believe and trust in God and His faithfulness.

So how do you get this FAITH… So glad you asked. The bible says that FAITH comes from hearing and hearing from the word of God.

So my friend, if you are struggling with the things which may happen today, tomorrow and as you move forward in your life and are afraid and uncertain as to what may occur, consider the “F” factor. The bible states that once you have FAITH, which only needs to be in a small amount, you will be able to move mountains.

Matthew 17:20
The Message (MSG)
20 “Because you’re not yet taking God seriously,” said Jesus. “The simple truth is that if you had a mere kernel of faith, a poppy seed, say, you would tell this mountain, ‘Move!’ and it would move. There is nothing you wouldn’t be able to tackle.”

Be blessed!


The Fear of Rejection

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 If asked, not many people would confess that they have a fear of rejection, but in fact many of us do.  Many decisions are made or should I say, not made, based around this fear.  Rejection is one of those things that make us feel unwanted, unqualified, not satisfactory or not fulfilling the requirement. In short it just leaves us feeling bad. 
No one likes being rejected, it does not feel good, in fact it brings out other feelings such as anger, distrust and fear. These feelings then cause us to withdraw and retreat within and pull away from others. It is then where we find our safe zone, or where we think it is safe.  We all like being in our safe zone, it feels good, has minimum  complications and has very little anxiety.   In our eyes it’s one of the best places we could be. It is for that reason that we don’t take risk, we don’t move forward by faith and we don’t engage in new opportunities or adventures.  This is what I call  being “Stuck In Our Stuff”. 
Rejection is part of life, it happens, but it does not mean from that point on we do not try things and move forward. We have to trust God and understand that He is in control and has our back. Many of us have been rejected, but it did not stop us. To start the roll call, Jesus was rejected by His own people and He is all powerful and all mighty and reigns over all.  Michael Jordan was rejected in high school and cut from the basketball team. We all know how his story played out, he was one of the best basketball players who ever played the game.  Walt Disney, the man who gave us Disney World and Mickey Mouse. His first animation company went bankrupt. He was also fired by a news editor because he lacked imagination.
So you see..there is no need for us to fear rejection. It does not mean that it’s over or that it’s not met to be. It simply means that it’s not time, our time. So the next time you are faced with rejection rejoice in the fact that God has your back and your best interest at heart. He knows what He is doing and wants nothing but the very best for you and yours. Look at it, Learn from it and don’t get “Stuck In Your Stuff”
Remember it’s never over until God says it’s over. 

Making Mistakes – A Guide to Becoming a Better You!

Mistakes are those things that happen in our lives on a daily basis. We make wrong decisions, wrong choices and misunderstand the purpose,  intention or direction that has been given or shared, but making mistakes does not mean that the game is over.  Consider a sports team, rather it’s football, baseball, basket ball, tennis or hockey, many mistakes have been made in all of these games that ended with a miraculous positive outcome that resulted in a win. 
When you look back over your life, you will discover that you have also made many mistakes, as I have, only to see that you have also won in so many ways. You have gained knowledge and insight and in some instances you have become stronger, wiser, and more determined than ever to press forward and finish the course. Making a mistake does not disqualify you, it does not eliminate you, it does not change the plan and purpose for your life. God has a perfect plan for your life. You were not a mistake and He will not turn His back on you because you simply made a mistake. 
Ok…so you had a baby out of wedlock, you were caught with drugs, you failed out of college, you were fired from your job, you cheated in a relationship, you didn’t tell the truth about a situation and you just made wrong choices.  It’s not over! What did you learn?  What will you do differently? How have you changed? 
As we enter into 2013 I believe that it is critical that we all understand that we have made mistakes in our life and we will continue to make mistakes, but it’s what you do with them and how you move through them that makes the difference. 
Making mistakes can be a guide to becoming a better you. Like a handbook or an instruction guide they can teach and help you not to make the same mistake again, but if you do…do not allow your mistakes to keep you down.  Use them as a catalyst to propel you to go forward and become the winner that you were designed to be.  
Use Mistakes to…